If you answer yes to any of the questions below, you could be in an
abusive relationship, or your relationship could become abusive.

  • Do you feel nervous around him/her?
  • Do you have to be careful to control your behaviour to avoid his/her anger?
  • Do you feel pressured by him/her when it comes to sex?
  • Are you scared of disagreeing with him/her?
  • Does he/she criticize you, or humiliate you in front of other people?
  • Is he/she always checking up or questioning you about what you do without him/her?
  • Does he/she repeatedly and wrongly accuse you of seeing other people?
  • Does he/she tell you that if you changed, he/she wouldn't abuse you?
  • Does his/her jealousy stop you from seeing friends or family?
  • Does he/she make you feel like you are wrong, stupid, crazy, or inadequate?
  • Has he/she ever scared you with violence or threatening behaviour?
  • Do you often do things to please him/her, rather than to please yourself?
  • Does he/she prevent you from going out or doing things you want to do?
  • Do you feel that, with him/her, nothing you do is ever good enough?
  • Does he/she say that they will kill or hurt themselves if you break up with them?
  • Does he/she make excuses for their abusive behaviour by saying it's
    because of alcohol or drugs, or because they can't control their temper,
    or that they were "just joking"?


  • There are approximately 40,000 arrests for domestic violence in Canada per year (Canadian Centre of Justice Statistics, 2009)
  • On average, every 6 days a woman in Canada is killed by her intimate partner (Canadian Women's Foundation, Statistics Canada, 2009)
  • Half of all women in Canada have experienced at least one incident of physical or sexual violence since the age of 16 (Statistics Canada, 2009)